Today my bf and I had a very open conversation about “calm down” and why I hate that phrase so much. Every time someone uses it I just get more riled up. I know it’s something I need to work on myself, but I also can’t help but hate the phrase. It feels like my feelings are being completely dismissed, like I’m being told to just shut up. We’re going to try going with “stop stressing” (well, maybe put a bit more nicely, haha) and see if that helps. Because what he really wants is for me to not panic as much so we can try to solve the problem that’s stressing me, not to just shut me up. But for now I can’t divorce “calm down” from the negative associations I have with it from past experience. Well, it’s progress though.
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Hi I'm Ann, 24 years old, and currently living in Maine, the land of lobsters and lighthouses. ❀